Today we're getting into wedding guest etiquette and pro active responses for the bride and groom. While I could probably fill a book with all of the wedding don'ts, here are a few that are top of mind.
1. Unless it is a matter of life and death, do not call a bride or groom on their wedding day. Save the well wishes for the reception or send a thoughtful note. If you're unexpectedly unable to attend, either send a message or reach out to the designated wedding manager (planner, relative or friend).
For The Couple: Consider handing your phones off to a trusted member of the bridal party, sibling, or other relative on the day of the wedding. Give the trusted party guidelines on how to handle each scenario.
2. If the couple is having an unplugged ceremony PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN! Quality wedding photography rates start at around $3,000. Not to mention the additional funds spent on the very sign that says to put your phone away that some people choose to ignore. Don't be that guest. Be in the moment and experience the ceremony in real-time. Don't run the risk of ruining the professional shots the couple has paid for. Also, don't be disrespectful of the couple's wishes.
For the couple: If professional lock boxes are out of the question, have your officiant or MC remind guests to power off their phones and not to take photos.
3. Always follow the dress code set forth by the couple. Under dressing is never a good look but over dressing can be even more problematic. Whether you agree with the dress code or not, find a comfortable way to oblige. If you're unsure about what's appropriate, there is a ton of information online regarding the topic. Also, check in with the couple (in advance of course) for some extra guidance.
For the couple: Add the dress code to your invitations so there's no confusion. Also, use the details card to direct your guests to your wedding website where visual examples of said dress code should be provided.
4. Be sure to RSVP before or by the date specified. As a fellow commitment phobe, I understand the urge to wait until the last minute. Don't do it! Make a note of anything that may present an obstacle such as transportation, childcare etc. and find solutions early on. This will relieve the mental clutter and help you make a final decision.
For the couple: Make it easy for guests to respond. In addition to a response card, provide instructions for digital responses via your wedding website. Give yourself enough time between the RSVP date and the final headcount for the caterer. This will cut down on the stress of rounding up those final responses.
5. Never bring unconfirmed guests to a wedding. Not only is it considered tacky, but it can also leave the bride and groom with an unintended bill. If a plus one wasn't extended to you, take it as an opportunity to make some new friends.
For the couple: Communicate with your wedding professional how you'd like the situation handled, should any extra guests arrive. It's also good to loop in a relative to assist said wedding professional as they'll have more insight into your family dynamic.
6. Do not over indulge. I've often heard people say if there's no open bar, they're not showing up🥴. That being said, an open bar is no excuse to over-drink. This isn't about being judgmental nor will I tell you how many drinks are appropriate. However, I will encourage you to drink responsibly. Don't put yourself in a position where you're a danger to yourself or others.
For the couple: While you should't have to babysit adults at your wedding, I recommend designating a relative to work with your wedding professionals should someone become inebriated. The safety of all your guests should always be front of mind.
7. Do not ignore the gift registry. The couple is literally telling you exactly what they want or need. Listen! A personalized gift is nice (if you know the couple well enough) but, just picking up a random toaster isn't as thoughtful. A monetary gift or donation in the couple's name is better served.
For the couple: Register for items in different price ranges to better accommodate your guests. Some wedding registry sites also allow for you to request donations toward your honeymoon.
8. No impromptu speeches. Wedding ceremonies and receptions are planned events. There's usually an extensive timeline curated by the couple and their wedding planner. So, no random speeches or toasts. Instead, write your heartfelt words in a card for the couple to enjoy after the wedding. Should the couple open the floor for speeches, keep it short and audience appropriate.
For the couple: Consider having an audio guestbook (I've linked a few below). This is great for guests that want to express their love verbally. Also, it's a nice way to remember those loved ones who may not be with us for much longer.
9. Do not take any centerpieces or decor items unless instructed by the couple. A beautiful centerpiece can be quite tempting, especially for a flower lover. However, wait for the go-ahead before snatching up those blooms. Some decorations might be rentals and can cost the couple if misplaced.
For the couple: Have your MC or DJ make an announcement regarding whether centerpieces are up for grabs or not. Some couples even make a game out of it. Another alternative is to have someone place all of the eligible items in a central area so guests can grab them on their way out.
10. Do not get engaged or make any big announcements during someone else's wedding unless arrangements were made with the couple beforehand. This can be really sweet and romantic if done with the couple's blessing, especially if it's a relative or close friend that most of your guests are also connected to. However, no couple is obligated to share their special moment with you in that way. Certainly don't just assume it's okay to pull such a stunt.
11. Don't request a plus 1
12. Don't complain or talk badly about the wedding or guests while at the wedding
13. Don't walk in or crowd around the back while the wedding party makes their way down the isle
14. Don't hijack the photographer for a personal photo session
15: Don't post the bride in her dress before she does (unless permission is given)
16. Don't mess with the seating chart (unless you're sure the change would be approved)
17. Don't try to "upstage" the bride and groom
18. Keep quiet during the ceremony, toasts etc
19. Read the room when it comes to appropriate dancing
20. Have a positive attitude and great time!
Until next time,
Audio Guest Book Options
Today's Valentine's Day post is perfect for my procrastinators and introverts. I've compiled a list of date night ideas you can do from the comfort of your own home. Check it out below:
1. Skill Share
Why not share something you're passionate about with the one you love? Whether it be photography, playing an instrument, or culinary gifts, the level of intimacy between teacher and student is undeniable.
2. Win Me Over
This one is a ton of fun. Especially if you love to argue a point. Prior to date night, you will select a series of topics (keep it playful). Consider subjects like, most dynamic R&B group of the 90s, best Leonardo DiCaprio movie, or the ultimate after school snack. Then, craft your argument for each topic (visual aids are encouraged). Not only do you get insight into the way your partner thinks, but, you will also, learn random, useless, trivia facts👍🏾. So, cater the topics to suit your personalities (get as spicy as you'd like) and I promise you will be thoroughly entertained.
3. Blindfolded Tasting
Are you a foodie? Can you taste the subtle notes of despair, when you've reached the bottom of your French fries? Then, you'll love this one. Get a pair of blindfolds, or use a necktie or pantyhose (a la Christian Grey). Then, prepare an assortment of foods to feed your partner. Be sure to incorporate different flavors and textures. Also, think up interesting ways to serve each item, make sure the kids aren't home😉.
This one's pretty straight forward. It's just food, and, well, the floor. Incorporate mood lighting, music, or even a movie. Make it as romantic or as raunchy as you please. Seriously, you can't mess it up. There's a reason why it's a classic.
5. Renos & Romance
This one is perfect for couples that live together. If you're good with your hands, or fancy a design challenge, try taking on a small renovation together. Create a feature wall in the family room, or reupholster that side chair in the den. Just make sure it's a project you'll work well together on (please, no power tools if you will be drinking)!
6. Paint and Portraits
Nothing says love, like immortalization. Remember that one scene in Titanic? So, break out the canvas and paint or sketchpad and get a glimpse of yourself through your partner's eyes. For some added fun, try using body paint and let your partner be the canvas (FYI this can get a bit messy).
7. Recreate The Date
A date so nice, you'd make it twice. Choose a memorable date as inspiration ( it doesn't have to be the first) and recreate a few key moments. You can get really creative, since it'll take place at home. Make the night extra special by incorporating mementos from the original date.
I hope you've found a date idea to suit you and your significant other. Remember to be creative, thoughtful and have fun! Happy Valentine's Day.
Until next time,
I can't believe we're already at the end of 2022! I hope this year has truly been good to all of you. If not, just a few more days to go😩. Let's close out with some tips to plan the perfect New Year Wedding...
1. Find Cute Ways to Incorporate the Theme:
When I think about celebrating the New Year, champagne is front of mind. So, in addition to a traditional champagne toast, take it a step further with these festive champagne cork escort cards (pictured above) .
2. Put a New Spin On an Old Tradition:
Keep the ceremony on theme by simply swapping out the grains of rice for a more festive option. Sparklers, confetti cannons and metallic streamers all scream Happy New Year! Just be sure to inquire with your venue about what's permitted.
3. Do NOT Neglect The Ball Drop:
Evening weddings typically end between 11pm and 1am. For a big impact, why not end the night with an epic countdown at midnight. You can enhance the experience by releasing balloons, incorporating sparklers or confetti cannons as the countdown concludes (again, be sure to consult your venue prior to these arrangements). Even if the wedding runs past 12, you should still take the time to make this a special moment.
4. Photo Ops at Every Turn:
From headbands and hats to glasses and noise makers, there should be props a plenty for guests to take photos. Beyond the Photo Booth, add a few items at the guest tables so everyone can join in the fun. Be sure to have your wedding hashtag displayed so your guests can get in on the social sharing of the evening.
5. Festive Fashion:
While you should always establish a dress code for any wedding, formal attire adds an elegance that's perfect for a New Year Wedding. If your crowd is a little extra like us, have them dress in Black Tie or Avant-garde looks for some added flair.
6. In the Details:
Wedding stationery is a subtle way to embrace the theme. Use this design element to add to the New Year aesthetic from the invitation suite down to the dinner menus.
As always, I hope these tips help you plan the best New Year wedding ever!
Until next time,
Engagement season is in full swing. So, I'm excited to share some tips to help you nail that holiday proposal 💍.
1. The Feeling Should Be Mutual
Now, this should be a no brainer. Still, you'd be surprised how many people ignore this essential detail. Prior to popping the question, discuss your visions of marriage with your partner. If you're both on the same page, then, you can move forward with proposal plans.
2. Family Feedback
This one only applies if your partner desires familial approval prior to the engagement. Don't base this on what you've seen in movies or even your own family dynamics. Your partner should be consulted before you contact their family.
3. Consider Your Partner
Even if you're planning a surprise engagement, your partner's desires should be at the forefront of the planning process. From choosing the right ring, to deciding how intimate the big moment will be, your partner's wishes should be considered the whole way through.
4. The Ring
A marriage is a mutual commitment. The ring however, is a gift for your partner. Once you begin conversations about marriage, you should simultaneously collect information about the kind of ring they'd like. In addition to the style, you should also be aware of your partner's ring size. Another important step is getting the ring insured. Unfortunate situations happen all the time. So, an item that valuable should be protected.
5. Don't Forget the Details
Now, this may seem superficial to some. However, I think it demonstrates thoughtfulness, in this social media driven world. Be sure your partner is well put together, down to the cuticles (especially if the cameras are out). Trust me, this gesture will be greatly appreciated and make your love feel extra special.
6. Tie in the Holiday
The holidays are the perfect time to pop the question. That's why engagement season lasts from Thanksgiving to Valentine's Day. So, why not infuse the magic of the season into the proposal? Weave the special moment into an existing holiday tradition, or use it to create a new one. Incorporating those festive elements into the proposal will definitely make the experience more memorable.
7. Secure the Ring
Guess how many engagement rings are at the bottom of the ocean. Too many! When choosing the perfect destination for your engagement, be sure to consider ALL the possibilities. Take the necessary precautions to safeguard that ring! If the conditions are really high risk, consider a stand-in ring. While you don't need to spend tons of money on a custom replica, the stand-in should be very similar to the real thing.
8. Document the Moment
Whether it be filmed or just a detailed journal entry, be sure to keep a record of this most precious moment. Trust me, one day further down the road, you'll be asked to recount the events of that day and you'll be surprised how many details you have forgotten. Seriously, whenever I ask my clients how they met, I always get a kick out of how much their stories differ. So, take the necessary steps to preserve the memory and enjoy it for years to come.
I hope you feel more confident in planning your proposal. Congratulations in advance!
Until Next Time,
Photo by Tara Winstead from Pexels
Hey, you guys!
I hope your new year is off to an amazing start. If you, or someone you know is recently engaged, please check out this list of things to consider before you start planning your big day.
View it below. 💍
1. ENJOY YOUR ENGAGEMENT
Congratulations, you’re engaged. Enjoy it! So many couples jump right into wedding planning after getting engaged. Don’t make this mistake. Your engagement is a big deal. Bask in this moment. Kiss each other a million times. Take tons of photos posing with your ring. Also, document all the details of your proposal, to enjoy for years to come.
2. SHARE THE GOOD NEWS
It’s time to spread the word. Be sure to personally tell those closest to you, before you post on social media or send an announcement to the paper.
3. SET THE DATE
The question everyone will be asking (including the wedding vendors). While it doesn’t have to be set in stone just yet. Choose some perspective dates of when you’d like to tie the knot.
4. DEFINE YOUR STYLE
Once you’ve settled on some dates, you should decide on your wedding style. Will your cultures and, or religion, play a major role? Will the affair be more formal or casual? How many guests will you invite? these are all things to consider at this stage.
5. SET YOUR BUDGET
Before you spend a dime, set your wedding budget! Start by finding a sample budget breakdown online (wedding costs vary widely from state to state). Then, review your finances. Also. be sure to find out if your parents would like to contribute, or gift a particular item. Once you have all of the numbers in front of you,you can create a savings plan (if necessary).
6. CHOOSE YOUR WEDDING PARTY
A decision not to be taken lightly. Each member of your wedding party has a special role to play in your big day. So, choose those who not only want the best for you, but are able to commit to their duties as well.
7. FIND YOUR PLANNING COMMUNITY
We highly suggest hiring a professional wedding planner. If not, at least a coordinator to manage your wedding day. In addition to the professionals, join an online wedding community. Zola, is one of our favorites.There is plenty of information, and so many resources out there to help you plan the perfect wedding.
Planning a wedding can be very stressful. Most likely, you will hit some snags along the way. It's completely normal to bump heads with your partner. As long, as you are both very transparent about your desires, and, focus on what you're building together, you will figure it out. As always, hope this helps.
Until next time,
While new wedding trends have always come and gone. We saw some drastic changes happen in 2020. Here are some of our favorite trends you'll be sure to see in 2021.
1. Covid-19 Safety Precautions
From color coded safety masks, to hand sanitizing stations, Covid safety is at the forefront of wedding ceremonies. While we hate dealing with this Coronavirus as much as the next guy. We love to see couples celebrate their love while keeping everyone safe. On the bright side, now you won't have to explain why entitled aunt Karen isn't allowed to sit at the main table. Just blame it on social distancing #sixfeetplease.
2. Smaller Ceremonies
Micro Weddings aren't going anywhere. Vaccine, or not, many couples are still opting for a more intimate affair. Whether hosting a small group at their residence or making reservations at their favorite restaurant, many are choosing to go small.
3. Live Entertainment
While this isn't a new trend, there has definitely been an influx in live entertainment at weddings. Since dance floors are prohibited in many instances, couples have been hiring live bands to entertain their seated guests. And honestly, who doesn't love live music?
4. Conscious Weddings
Another oldie, but definitely good! This trend takes place behind the scenes. Couples who are committed to social change have made it their mission to support some of society's most marginalized groups. Whether it's buying black, shopping small, or working with women. We love to see couples putting their money where their mouths are.
5. Live Streaming
With social distancing orders still in full effect. More couples have been entertaining the idea of having virtual wedding guests. Many platforms have integrated live streaming into their programs, to simplify this process. With all the chaos and confusion constantly bombarding us, we love the idea of sharing classic love stories in this modern way.
Will you be incorporating any of these trends in your wedding? Let us know in the comment section.
Today we're closing out the Valentine's Day blog with this charming table for two. This simple, inexpensive tablescape is perfect for a quiet night in with your love. The understated design allows you to keep the focus on each other, and maybe ask a special question...
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