Today we're getting into wedding guest etiquette and pro active responses for the bride and groom. While I could probably fill a book with all of the wedding don'ts, here are a few that are top of mind.
1. Unless it is a matter of life and death, do not call a bride or groom on their wedding day. Save the well wishes for the reception or send a thoughtful note. If you're unexpectedly unable to attend, either send a message or reach out to the designated wedding manager (planner, relative or friend).
For The Couple: Consider handing your phones off to a trusted member of the bridal party, sibling, or other relative on the day of the wedding. Give the trusted party guidelines on how to handle each scenario.
2. If the couple is having an unplugged ceremony PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN! Quality wedding photography rates start at around $3,000. Not to mention the additional funds spent on the very sign that says to put your phone away that some people choose to ignore. Don't be that guest. Be in the moment and experience the ceremony in real-time. Don't run the risk of ruining the professional shots the couple has paid for. Also, don't be disrespectful of the couple's wishes.
For the couple: If professional lock boxes are out of the question, have your officiant or MC remind guests to power off their phones and not to take photos.
3. Always follow the dress code set forth by the couple. Under dressing is never a good look but over dressing can be even more problematic. Whether you agree with the dress code or not, find a comfortable way to oblige. If you're unsure about what's appropriate, there is a ton of information online regarding the topic. Also, check in with the couple (in advance of course) for some extra guidance.
For the couple: Add the dress code to your invitations so there's no confusion. Also, use the details card to direct your guests to your wedding website where visual examples of said dress code should be provided.
4. Be sure to RSVP before or by the date specified. As a fellow commitment phobe, I understand the urge to wait until the last minute. Don't do it! Make a note of anything that may present an obstacle such as transportation, childcare etc. and find solutions early on. This will relieve the mental clutter and help you make a final decision.
For the couple: Make it easy for guests to respond. In addition to a response card, provide instructions for digital responses via your wedding website. Give yourself enough time between the RSVP date and the final headcount for the caterer. This will cut down on the stress of rounding up those final responses.
5. Never bring unconfirmed guests to a wedding. Not only is it considered tacky, but it can also leave the bride and groom with an unintended bill. If a plus one wasn't extended to you, take it as an opportunity to make some new friends.
For the couple: Communicate with your wedding professional how you'd like the situation handled, should any extra guests arrive. It's also good to loop in a relative to assist said wedding professional as they'll have more insight into your family dynamic.
6. Do not over indulge. I've often heard people say if there's no open bar, they're not showing up🥴. That being said, an open bar is no excuse to over-drink. This isn't about being judgmental nor will I tell you how many drinks are appropriate. However, I will encourage you to drink responsibly. Don't put yourself in a position where you're a danger to yourself or others.
For the couple: While you should't have to babysit adults at your wedding, I recommend designating a relative to work with your wedding professionals should someone become inebriated. The safety of all your guests should always be front of mind.
7. Do not ignore the gift registry. The couple is literally telling you exactly what they want or need. Listen! A personalized gift is nice (if you know the couple well enough) but, just picking up a random toaster isn't as thoughtful. A monetary gift or donation in the couple's name is better served.
For the couple: Register for items in different price ranges to better accommodate your guests. Some wedding registry sites also allow for you to request donations toward your honeymoon.
8. No impromptu speeches. Wedding ceremonies and receptions are planned events. There's usually an extensive timeline curated by the couple and their wedding planner. So, no random speeches or toasts. Instead, write your heartfelt words in a card for the couple to enjoy after the wedding. Should the couple open the floor for speeches, keep it short and audience appropriate.
For the couple: Consider having an audio guestbook (I've linked a few below). This is great for guests that want to express their love verbally. Also, it's a nice way to remember those loved ones who may not be with us for much longer.
9. Do not take any centerpieces or decor items unless instructed by the couple. A beautiful centerpiece can be quite tempting, especially for a flower lover. However, wait for the go-ahead before snatching up those blooms. Some decorations might be rentals and can cost the couple if misplaced.
For the couple: Have your MC or DJ make an announcement regarding whether centerpieces are up for grabs or not. Some couples even make a game out of it. Another alternative is to have someone place all of the eligible items in a central area so guests can grab them on their way out.
10. Do not get engaged or make any big announcements during someone else's wedding unless arrangements were made with the couple beforehand. This can be really sweet and romantic if done with the couple's blessing, especially if it's a relative or close friend that most of your guests are also connected to. However, no couple is obligated to share their special moment with you in that way. Certainly don't just assume it's okay to pull such a stunt.
11. Don't request a plus 1
12. Don't complain or talk badly about the wedding or guests while at the wedding
13. Don't walk in or crowd around the back while the wedding party makes their way down the isle
14. Don't hijack the photographer for a personal photo session
15: Don't post the bride in her dress before she does (unless permission is given)
16. Don't mess with the seating chart (unless you're sure the change would be approved)
17. Don't try to "upstage" the bride and groom
18. Keep quiet during the ceremony, toasts etc
19. Read the room when it comes to appropriate dancing
20. Have a positive attitude and great time!
Until next time,
Audio Guest Book Options
I'm just popping in for a quick one.
I was asked for more affordable options in response to my previous Viva Magenta Dress post (view it here). I found these three dresses on Amazon, all under $50! Each dress is remarkably versatile. So, you'll definitely be able to wear it again. Check them out below.
Until next time,
Summer is right around the corner. So, the social events will be moving outdoors. Keep things cool with these refreshing cocktail trends.
Yes, champagne walls are still going strong. I love this idea because it's a double duty element. Not only will your guests enjoy a drink, they'll love posing in front of this design feature. Take things a step further by also making this display your seating chart. That's three jobs, score!
Curated cocktails can add a personal touch to any event. They're a delicious way to showcase someone's personality or represent a brand. The key is to also reference a shared experience when crafting your beverage, such as: the current season, holiday, or another element that links your guests together. Finally, give your cocktail a catchy name that ties into the theme of your party.
Cocktails To Go
My favorite parting gifts are the ones people will actually use. A good favor should also feel like an extension of the party. A to-go cocktail is not only practical, but easy to DIY. So, get out your favorite drink recipe and send your guests home with a party in a glass!
I hope this inspires you to try something new at your next event. Be sure your guests are 21 or over, and please drink responsibly.
Until next time,
Mother's Day is right around the corner. So, I'm sharing some gift ideas that both YOU and your mom will love.
I hope you were able to find the perfect gift for your mom and have a good laugh in the process. Seriously, this present should be all about your mother, but, if you can also benefit, then everyone wins😉.
Until next time,
Let's kick off wedding season with some flowers. Today, I'm sharing 3 of my favorite floral wedding trends for 2023. I'm especially excited for the third one. As someone who loves color, I'm thrilled to see which unconventional hues will be on display this year.
1. Petite Bridal Bouquets:
Bridal bouquets will be daintier in 2023. Brides are taking a break from robust, overflowing arrangements and opting for more delicate options. These petite posies still pack a punch. However, they won’t completely steal the show. Instead, they will perfectly accentuate the bride in her beautiful gown.
2. Edible Arrangements:
Be prepared for perfectly placed produce. Wedding tablescapes will be infused with distinctive, non-floral elements in 2023. Amongst these will be carefully curated fruits and vegetables. With so many unique colors, textures, and shapes, florists are adding produce to their design arsenals. From exotic, white coconuts to simple, fresh lemons, get ready to experience food beyond your plate.
3. Fashion Forward Color Palettes:
We’ve seen so many unique color trends over the past few years, from monochromatic desert hues to dynamic pops of neon. In 2023, Wedding Florists aren’t holding back when it comes to color. Be ready for thoughtful, sophisticated color stories ranging from beautiful, bold blends to creative color blocking. We will be seeing floral arrangements with inspired shades and patterns both naturally and artificially colored. Seriously, these breathtaking arrangements could rival anything you’d find on the latest fashion runway.
Which trend are you most inspired by, and will you be incorporating any of them into your wedding?
Until next time,
Today's Valentine's Day post is perfect for my procrastinators and introverts. I've compiled a list of date night ideas you can do from the comfort of your own home. Check it out below:
1. Skill Share
Why not share something you're passionate about with the one you love? Whether it be photography, playing an instrument, or culinary gifts, the level of intimacy between teacher and student is undeniable.
2. Win Me Over
This one is a ton of fun. Especially if you love to argue a point. Prior to date night, you will select a series of topics (keep it playful). Consider subjects like, most dynamic R&B group of the 90s, best Leonardo DiCaprio movie, or the ultimate after school snack. Then, craft your argument for each topic (visual aids are encouraged). Not only do you get insight into the way your partner thinks, but, you will also, learn random, useless, trivia facts👍🏾. So, cater the topics to suit your personalities (get as spicy as you'd like) and I promise you will be thoroughly entertained.
3. Blindfolded Tasting
Are you a foodie? Can you taste the subtle notes of despair, when you've reached the bottom of your French fries? Then, you'll love this one. Get a pair of blindfolds, or use a necktie or pantyhose (a la Christian Grey). Then, prepare an assortment of foods to feed your partner. Be sure to incorporate different flavors and textures. Also, think up interesting ways to serve each item, make sure the kids aren't home😉.
This one's pretty straight forward. It's just food, and, well, the floor. Incorporate mood lighting, music, or even a movie. Make it as romantic or as raunchy as you please. Seriously, you can't mess it up. There's a reason why it's a classic.
5. Renos & Romance
This one is perfect for couples that live together. If you're good with your hands, or fancy a design challenge, try taking on a small renovation together. Create a feature wall in the family room, or reupholster that side chair in the den. Just make sure it's a project you'll work well together on (please, no power tools if you will be drinking)!
6. Paint and Portraits
Nothing says love, like immortalization. Remember that one scene in Titanic? So, break out the canvas and paint or sketchpad and get a glimpse of yourself through your partner's eyes. For some added fun, try using body paint and let your partner be the canvas (FYI this can get a bit messy).
7. Recreate The Date
A date so nice, you'd make it twice. Choose a memorable date as inspiration ( it doesn't have to be the first) and recreate a few key moments. You can get really creative, since it'll take place at home. Make the night extra special by incorporating mementos from the original date.
I hope you've found a date idea to suit you and your significant other. Remember to be creative, thoughtful and have fun! Happy Valentine's Day.
Until next time,
Valentine's Day is just around the corner. So. I've rounded up 10 gifts to show your best gal why you love her so much...
In summary, she is EVERYTHING and she deserves the best! So, be sure to celebrate your galentine this year.
Until Next time,
Is it me or did January feel extra long this year? Anyhow, we're finally in February and I'm so excited to get into the spirit of Valentine's Day. Today I'm sharing 5 things I do every Valentine's Day to cater to myself. Hopefully you'll be inspired to do something special for yourself this year!
I cannot stress how rewarding it is to honor the body in this way. There's a certain magic that occurs when we treat our vessels well. I mean the self esteem boost alone is worthwhile. Though there are endless ways to tend to the body, I focus on my nails. As someone who works with her hands, I typically don't invest in "fancy nails". However, when V-Day rolls around I make sure my fingers and toes are perfectly polished.
I truly believe that chocolate makes the heart smile (that's not medical advice 🤭). I always indulge in a sweet treat for Valentine's Day because my tastebuds deserve some love too. From gourmet goodies to decadent desserts, there's always room for a tasty delight.
There's nothing like the feeling of luxurious fabrics against the skin. Whether it be a satin pillowcase, cashmere throw, or silk pajamas, I always treat myself to a gift made of fine threads.
4. Celebrate Love
Who can resist a good love story? I'm no different. For Valentine's Day, I enjoy watching romantic movies. No matter how cheesy, I always delight in the joy a budding romance brings (even if it's not mine). Celebrating the love stories of others always helps me cherish my own.
5. Celebrate Myself
It's so easy to get bogged down by negative self-talk in this fast pace society we live in. While we should always be vigilant in quieting that voice, Valentine's Day is the perfect time to write yourself a love letter. Before I go to sleep, I write the following message (please feel free to copy):
Dear [Your name],
Thank you for...
I really like the way you...
You're so good at...
You've worked really hard on...
I'm excited to see you...
I'm proud of your...
I absolutely love your...
You have the best...
Whichever way you choose, be sure to love and honor yourself this Valentine's Day.
Until Next Time,
I hope you've stepped into this new year confident and renewed. I've certainly been feeling like I'm ready to take on anything. Even Pantone is matching my energy with their color of the year. Viva Magenta, is giving fun, flirty, and sultry, with a side of "play with me if you want to"😩. Seriously, I'm so in love with this color that I've rounded up 10 dazzling dresses to have you showing up and showing out every season of 2023. Check them out below (links in each photo):
I hope this inspires you to start having fun with color.
Until next time,
I can't believe we're already at the end of 2022! I hope this year has truly been good to all of you. If not, just a few more days to go😩. Let's close out with some tips to plan the perfect New Year Wedding...
1. Find Cute Ways to Incorporate the Theme:
When I think about celebrating the New Year, champagne is front of mind. So, in addition to a traditional champagne toast, take it a step further with these festive champagne cork escort cards (pictured above) .
2. Put a New Spin On an Old Tradition:
Keep the ceremony on theme by simply swapping out the grains of rice for a more festive option. Sparklers, confetti cannons and metallic streamers all scream Happy New Year! Just be sure to inquire with your venue about what's permitted.
3. Do NOT Neglect The Ball Drop:
Evening weddings typically end between 11pm and 1am. For a big impact, why not end the night with an epic countdown at midnight. You can enhance the experience by releasing balloons, incorporating sparklers or confetti cannons as the countdown concludes (again, be sure to consult your venue prior to these arrangements). Even if the wedding runs past 12, you should still take the time to make this a special moment.
4. Photo Ops at Every Turn:
From headbands and hats to glasses and noise makers, there should be props a plenty for guests to take photos. Beyond the Photo Booth, add a few items at the guest tables so everyone can join in the fun. Be sure to have your wedding hashtag displayed so your guests can get in on the social sharing of the evening.
5. Festive Fashion:
While you should always establish a dress code for any wedding, formal attire adds an elegance that's perfect for a New Year Wedding. If your crowd is a little extra like us, have them dress in Black Tie or Avant-garde looks for some added flair.
6. In the Details:
Wedding stationery is a subtle way to embrace the theme. Use this design element to add to the New Year aesthetic from the invitation suite down to the dinner menus.
As always, I hope these tips help you plan the best New Year wedding ever!
Until next time,
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